We Don’t DO Because We ARE, We ARE Because We DO

If you want to practice more……… Practice more.

If you want to stop eating crap…… Stop eating crap.

If you want to think more positively…. Think more positively.

If you want to sleep more….. Sleep more.

If you want to train more…. Train more.

If you want to be more organized…… Be more organized.

If you want to wake-up early…… Wake-up early.

If you want to be more disciplined…. Be more disciplined.

Jocko Willink

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You might laugh at the simplicity of the advice, but you would be missing the point. We become what we do. We don’t do because we are. We are because we do. He explains his philosophy in this short 4-minute video.

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If you want to change who you are, you must first change what you do. The advice that Jock Willink offers is not complicated. It is clear, concise, and straightforward. I highly recommend his books (click images for links to Amazon).

There are some effective strategies, like Mel Robbins 5-Second Rule which helps you overcome fear and procrastination, but ultimately you must do to become. As she puts it, “You cannot control how you feel. But you can always choose how you act.” Learn more,The 5 Second Rule – Overcoming the Habit of Procrastination

 “Do the things you fear, and the death of fear is certain.” Tom Hopkins

You must force yourself to do something long enough for it to become a habit. Once the behavior has become a habit, it will form your character. We form habits, and then they form us. First, you must act, then you will become. Here are a few more strategies to help you DO MORE and PROCRASTINATE LESS.

Discipline & Procrastination are Habits, NOT Personality Traits

PAIN & PLEASURE -USE THEM OR THEY WILL USE YOU

THE SURPRIZING RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN ATTITUDE AND BEHAVIOR

The Habit: Week-9 (Identify ONE Bad Habit, Interrupt and Replace It)

The Habit: Week-10 (Develop Consistency through Accountability)

For things to change, we must change. The great news is we can change. We can begin the process right now. Apply the strategies and begin the process. Don’t let any more time slip through your fingers. We get one shot at this thing, make it count!

“We do not act rightly because we have virtue or excellence, but rather have those because we have acted rightly. We are what we repeatedly do.” Aristotle

 Change your habits, change your life! 

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Are you ready to reboot and reset your relationship with food and exercise? Most programs focus on the mechanics of weight loss but fail to adequately address the psychology of change required. Most people know more than enough about nutrition and exercise to lose weight, but fail to act. This book takes a new approach to getting leaner, fitter, and stronger. 

The Fat Loss Habit: Creating Routines that Make Willpower and Fat Loss Automatic takes a new approach to getting leaner, fitter, and stronger. The program uses high-impact change strategies that make the process of adopting a healthy lifestyle easier. The nutrition and workout program, like the change techniques, have all been proven effective, and are all backed by research and scientific studies.

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The Fat Loss Habit – Book Introduction

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Are you ready to reboot and reset your relationship with food and exercise? Most programs focus on the mechanics of weight loss, but fail to adequately address the psychology of change required. Most people know more than enough about nutrition and exercise to lose weight, but fail to take action. This book takes a new approach to getting leaner, fitter, and stronger. The program uses high impact change strategies that make the process of adopting a healthy lifestyle easier. The nutrition and workout program like the change techniques, have all been proven effective and are all backed by research and scientific studies.

This book is full of change strategies and provides a blueprint for how they can be applied to transforming your body. These strategies can also be used to transform your relationships, build your career, and improve your life. You will learn the importance of creating a sense of urgency around your goal, tweaking your environment to foster new habits, finding bright spots, and generating short term wins to help you sustain momentum. Motivation is fleeting, that is why you will learn techniques to keep you stoked. You will learn how to apply solution based therapy’s miracle question to subdue personal struggles. You will learn how Starbucks teaches willpower to their baristas to produce a first-class customer experience. You will learn about action triggers, and how they are the key to adopting instant habits. You will learn how to use your smart phone to lose body fat, improve your workouts, and create new habits.

You will learn how group norms help US soldiers returning from Vietnam, overcome heroin addiction. You will learn what is often perceived as a “people problem”, is often a “situation problem. It is much easier to change one’s environment, than one’s attitude and behaviors. You will learn about internal struggles between your logical brain and your emotional brain, and how you can leverage their respective strengths to achieve your goals, instead of sabotaging them. You will learn to break the habit of procrastination by applying the 5 second rule. You will learn that measuring an activity, automatically modifies your behavior because of the increased attention it is receiving.

You will learn why you should prioritize strength training while on a weight loss program. Learn how to properly design strength training program, that can burn more calories than traditional cardio. Learn how to build strength and muscle based on science, not bro-science. Learn when and how to incorporate cardio sessions into your routine to get leaner, stronger, and fitter. Learn to prevent normal loss of muscle that occurs during most fat loss programs, which results in early plateau and gaining back the weight lost, and in some cases a few extra pounds. Learn three methods to keep the weight off and reset your body’s set point body weight. No foods or alcohol are off limits. This is not an extreme 12-week quick fix program. Those programs do not often work because they are not sustainable. This program is designed to fit in to your personal lifestyle.

There is a lot of inspiration in the pages of this book. In many cases, real life examples are used to illustrate the effectiveness of the strategies being taught. You will learn how an unwelcome American advisor, with meager resources, and a limited timeframe to achieve significant results, was able to solve the problem of childhood malnutrition for millions of Vietnamese children. You will be surprised to learn that solution to complex problems, are often simple if you observe the patterns surrounding them. For example, a US Military Army Officer, in Kufa, Iraq; noticed that preceding violent riots, protesters would gather at dusk and shortly thereafter food trucks would fill the plaza. After requesting the food trucks not enter the plaza at dusk, the number of riots dramatically dropped.

Most people would agree with the statement that we are the result of the thousands of decisions we have made during the course of our lives. If you are overweight, it is a result of the many decisions you make daily; particularly eating and drinking choices. Your daily habits are what make you who you are. Confucius said that “men’s natures are alike; it is their habits that carry them far apart”

What if I told you that most of our daily decisions are made automatically? The area of our brain responsible for cognitive thought fatigues quickly, and can become overwhelmed if it is force to make too many decisions. This condition is called “decision fatigue.” Many business leaders suggest that you tackle complex problems and make difficult decisions early in the day, when your energy is at its highest, and reserve less complex tasks for the afternoon. Albert Einstein and Steve Jobs were said to have simplified their lives by having their closets full of identical outfits, to avoid having to decide what to wear each day. President Obama said, “You will see I wear only gray or blue suits… I am trying to pare down decisions. I do not want to make decisions about what I am eating or wearing. Because I have too many other (important) decisions to make.”

The basal ganglia, sometimes called our primitive brain or reptilian brain, was once thought to only help control movement; but is now thought to play an important role in how we learn, process emotions, make decisions, and adopt habits. It is the part of our brain that takes over when you are performing repetitive daily activities. This primitive brain, frees our conscious mind from having to make countless decisions we face each day. Many of these decisions are inconsequential. Decisions like which pant leg to put on first, or putting Splenda in your coffee mug before creamer. It is a huge advantage to delegate these task to the basal ganglia, so the conscious brain can focus on more important decisions. Have you ever gotten into your car and drove towards your work instead of driving to your doctor’s office, even though your conscious mind knew you had a doctor’s appointment? That is because your conscious mind was not in the driver’s seat. It was your primitive brain directing action out of habit. What is habit? Habit is an automatic behavior.

Habits are not good or bad. We place those labels on them based on whether they are or are not in line with our goals, objectives, and in some cases, “perception of our own reality”. They are simply learned behaviors. “Bad” habits can be interrupted and replaced by “good” habits. You just need to muster up enough discipline to make the new routine stick. Fortunately, we can change our habits and do it quickly by creating action triggers. Action triggers create new habits almost instantaneously. You will learn more about that later.

Please stop believing the notion you are overweight or unfit because you lack the willpower, have a slow metabolism, your lazy, you do not have time, or any of the excuses we all make. Trust me, I was once an overweight kid. My father was never able to shed the extra pounds, try as hard as he did. He was always overweight, like his father before him, who died of a heart attack during my father’s freshman year in high school. In one of those life changing moments, I decided I was not going to be fat. No one would put that fat label on me. I committed to daily exercise, gave up all sweets, and no junk food. That was it, that was my plan. The only difference between me, my father, and his father before him, was that I decided to change. I was committed to that decision and doggedly stuck with it, day after day until I lost the weight, which led me into a life of fitness and self-awareness. Some might say, it led me to an appreciation of a healthier lifestyle without giving up on what most people were doing.

Exercising was the easiest part for me, I enjoyed exercising. My father introduced me to exercise. He let me use his Cement Weight set in our basement and let me read all his Joe Weider Muscle and Fitness magazines. I was at that age when you love spending time with your parents. He would take me with him when he would go running around the local reservoirs, or through the woods of Brookdale Park, in my hometown of Montclair, New Jersey. I enjoy the simple rhythmic nature of running, which always cleared my mind. I rode my bike everywhere and relished the feeling of exertion that came from climbing up Mount Hebron road, and the rush of going back down at high speeds. I can still remember our dark dank unfinished basement, my dungeon. It was the place where I first pushed and pulled weights, making my muscles get stronger.

Giving up desserts was the hardest part, made more difficult by my family’s love of it. We ate out often and everyone order desserts. It was hard, it was very hard to just not succumb to temptation. Holsten’s Brookdale Confectionery was the restaurant we patronized most often. It is still well known for their homemade ice-creams and chocolates. Also made famous as the diner in which the last scene of The Sopranos was filmed. It was tough not making an excuse. I had to ignore that voice that said, “Everyone else is having some, why should I not?” It was rough, but I was resolute. I was not going to be fat. I was going to strengthen my body like the heroes in my comic books. Silly, but I was only ten years old. I did not know what I was doing, but I was doing it. Moreover, I was doing it enthusiastically. Over time it became easier to say no to desserts, and eventually they stop asking me if I wanted any.

You are not doomed to be overweight. You simply need to commit. Without commitment, you will never start. The program will not work unless you work. This program is unique from any other program you may have tried in the past, because it provides practical tips and tricks that make the process of change as easy as possible. The high impact change techniques coupled the books nutrition program will transform your body. You will be surprised how quickly you will burn away fat, and achieve a leaner stronger body. GOOD LUCK!

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I hope you enjoyed reading this book introduction. Best wishes and best health!

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The book contains:

·       7 Change Strategies for Adopting a Healthy Lifestyle

·       A Flexible Diet Program that Doesn’t Put Any Foods Off-limit,  including Alcohol

·       20-Week Workout Log with Progress Assessments (Downloadable PDF)

·       3 Strategies for Resetting your Body Weight Set point to Keep the Weight Off

·       A Nutrition and Training Program Based on Science, not Bro Science.

 

DISCIPLINE ISN’T SOMETHING WE ARE BORN WITH

Our behaviors and attitudes are inseparably linked. When we change one, we change the other. Get in the habit of making good decisions, and you’ll become a person that habitually makes good decisions. We don’t do because we are, we are because we do. Habits form our character. Our reputation to ourselves and others is based on our habitual patterns of behavior; our habits.

When we form disciplined habits, we become a disciplined person. We developed character through our actions, not because we innately possess the virtue. We are all born the same, naked, ignorant, unable to even lift our heads. In “The Last Days Newsletter,” Leonard Ravenhill tells the story of a small group of tourists visiting a beautiful picturesque village. One of the tourists asks an old man of the village if any great men had been born in this village. The old man replied, “Nope, only babies.”[i]

Set in place a routine that reflects a disciplined person and you’ll become a disciplined person. When we routinely do difficult things, habit makes the difficult things easy. When the difficult becomes easy, life becomes easier. If we become better, our life’s will become better. Life is designed to give us what we deserve, not what we want. The farmer that doesn’t plant in the Spring cannot expect to reap a harvest in the Fall.

A better life can’t be handed to us. If we want success, we must work hard to become the person that success requires. We must make the necessary sacrifices. Success is simple, but it is not easy. To be successful, you have to give-up what most people are unwilling to sacrifice.

To be successful, you must do all those little things, day after day, that unsuccessful people are unwilling to do. It really is that simple. Life never gets better by chance, it gets better by change. Success is always deliberate. Each day is our life in miniature. How we spend each day, determines what kind of life we are going to have.

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Compound interest makes you wealthy; compound efforts make you successful. Unsuccessful people aren’t mindful of their daily patterns, so they fall into bad habits. They want success, but they don’t want to do what is required. Wanting more, without being willing to develop your skills through diligent effort; fuels disappointment. Looking for an above average job, with average skills is frustrating. Wanting to lose weight without reducing your caloric intake is frustrating. When you lose focus on your goals, you neglect the little decisions. This neglect leads to bad habits.

Bad habits are easy to form if you aren’t mindful of your decisions and patterns of behavior. Albert Einstein described compound interest as the eighth wonder of the world. He said those that understand it earn it while those that don’t pay it. The same is true of habits. Those that understand their importance put a lot of effort into cultivating good habits. The cumulative effects of our habits can be either positive or negative. The accumulated effects of bad habits lead to crisis. Those that don’t understand the importance of habits neglect them. They let them form unconsciously. They sleepwalk through their days, and by extension their lives.

The 5% of people that write down their goals and review them daily achieve more success than the other 95% combined because they keep their goals at the forefront of their consciousness. Reaffirming their goals keeps their actions in line with their values. Reconnecting with their goals activates their reticular activating system (RAS), which causes our minds to search our environment for resources to help us accomplish our goals. Their goals guide their daily decisions and actions. Unsuccessful people get lost in the daily obligations of life and immediate gratifications of making poor decisions. They have some vague ideas of what their goals are, but they don’t really think about them very often and rarely write them down.

Discipline isn’t a character trait, it is a HABIT. Change your habits, change your life! 

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The Fat Loss Habit: Creating Routines that Make Willpower and Fat Loss Automatic takes a new approach to getting leaner, fitter, and stronger. The program uses high-impact change strategies that make the process of adopting a healthy lifestyle easier. The nutrition and workout program, like the change techniques, have all been proven effective, and are all backed by research and scientific studies.

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[i] Leonard Ravenhill, PRAYER The Last Days Newsletter/June 1982

 

WHY WE CANNOT RELY ON DISCIPLINE OR MOTIVATION ALONE

We all need motivation and discipline in our lives because we are creatures of both emotion and logic. The more disciplined we behave, the more rationally we behave. If we were all completely logic driven creatures, everyone would be disciplined in all areas of life. We know that isn’t the case. Even the most successful people have areas of their life where they lack discipline. They are successful in the areas where they cultivated discipline, and failures in the areas they became slaves to their emotions.

We are both logical and emotional, but our actions are fueled more by our emotions. That is why we need to keep our emotional tanks full of daily doses of motivation. If our emotional tank is empty, it doesn’t matter how logical our goal is. If you have big dreams, but you aren’t obsessed with their achievement. If your necessity level isn’t sufficient, you’ll fail to do what is required.l

It is important we follow a consistent, disciplined approach to achieving our goal, but if our reasons aren’t strong enough, our excuses will be. Motivation is fleeting, and discipline is hard to sustain, but habits aren’t. People don’t act in a disciplined manner because they are disciplined; they act in a disciplined manner to become disciplined.

We don’t do because we are, we are because we do. We become, what we habitually do. Discipline is a habit, not a personality trait. Anyone can become disciplined because we can all change our behavior. That is mankind’s greatest gift; the gift to become what we wish to become. It is never too late to become the person you always wanted to be. Old habits are more difficult to break, but they can be broken, replaced with new ones.

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A useful analogy for a person with a goal is a guided missile. The target in this analogy is our goal. The guidance system locates the target in its environment and locks on. It stays focused on the target until it strikes the target. The target can move, but the missile will make course corrections because it is fixed on the target; not a specific path. To propel the rocket, it needs sufficient fuel. The further the target is, the more fuel it will need, the longer the missile will have to stay focused on the target, and the more course corrections it will have to make.

In this analogy, the guidance computer is the logic driven part of our brain. The course corrections are the strategies we use to keep us heading toward our goal. When pursuing a goal, it is important to maintain flexibility in our approach as conditions change or we learn new information, but our goal must be fixed. We want to be persistent in our pursuit, not dogmatic in our approach.

Having a goal and staying focused on that goal is critical. The bigger the goal, the longer we must stay focused on it; the more fuel we will need to sustain the long journey. The fuel is our emotional necessity. The bigger our goal, the stronger the emotional commitment needs to be. A simple recipe for success is to set a goal, identify what it requires of us, develop a plan, and generate enough emotional commitment to do what is required.

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Are you ready to reboot and reset your relationship with food and exercise? Most programs focus on the mechanics of weight loss but fail to adequately address the psychology of change required. Most people know more than enough about nutrition and exercise to lose weight, but fail to act. This book takes a new approach to getting leaner, fitter, and stronger. 

The Fat Loss Habit: Creating Routines that Make Willpower and Fat Loss Automatic takes a new approach to getting leaner, fitter, and stronger. The program uses high-impact change strategies that make the process of adopting a healthy lifestyle easier. The nutrition and workout program, like the change techniques, have all been proven effective, and are all backed by research and scientific studies.

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THE SURPRIZING RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN ATTITUDE AND BEHAVIOR

Most people know that attitude effects behavior, but the reverse is also true. You can change your attitude and character by changing your behavior. Did you know that forcing yourself to smile will improve your mood? In the military, I was taught that false motivation was better than no motivation. I thought it was just a means of getting us to push ourselves harder during tough training, which it did, but I also discovered that it changed my attitude. Pretend motivation, leads to genuine motivation.

Our mind seeks harmony between our attitudes and behaviors. The psychological term that describes a disharmony between attitude and behavior is called cognitive dissonance. When we perceive a divergence between our attitude and behavior, we will either change our attitude, or our behavior to minimize the disharmony.

Bad habits provide instant gratification, so changing our attitude around the behavior is easier than changing the behavior. Changing the behavior would require sacrifice while changing our attitude wouldn’t require anything but lying to ourselves. Changing our attitude allows us to continue indulging in the bad habit without any psychological angst.

Everyone knows that smoking is terrible for your health, but a smoker will reduce the conflict by convincing themselves that a longer life devoid of smoking isn’t worth living. They will identify themselves as a smoker. Their attitude is that smoking produces so much pleasure that a shorter lifespan is a price they are willing to pay.

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Your attitudes and behaviors are inseparably linked, with each affecting the other.  If you think your actions are not in line with your values, I would argue you are mistaken. Unless your behavior is forced upon you, I would argue that your actions are in line with your true values.

The problem is your values aren’t what you think they are. If you are always eating poorly, I would argue you value eating junk food more than you value having a strong lean physique. If you are always arriving late to work, I would argue you value the instant gratification of late-night TV, or partying more than you value getting up early and getting ahead.

Bad habits persist because we have changed our attitude toward the behavior instead of changing our behavior. We like to think of ourselves as rational creatures, but are we? I think we have a great capacity to be rational, but just because we can be rational doesn’t mean we always act rationally.

Our emotions can easily overpower our rational mind and cause us to make illogical rationalizations. These justifications cause us to act most irrationally. Emotions are a much more powerful driver of action than logic and reason. We need discipline in our lives because we fail to do what our rational mind is telling us to do. This is because we don’t feel; emotion, like doing it.

We would all act in a disciplined manner if we were truly rational beings. Discipline is doing what our rational mind knows is in our best interest. Therefore an action that wasn’t in our best interest would be undisciplined, and irrational behavior.

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Success is a few well-chosen disciplines practiced daily. Change your habits, change your life! 

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Are you ready to reboot and reset your relationship with food and exercise? Most programs focus on the mechanics of weight loss but fail to adequately address the psychology of change required. Most people know more than enough about nutrition and exercise to lose weight, but fail to act. This book takes a new approach to getting leaner, fitter, and stronger. 

The Fat Loss Habit: Creating Routines that Make Willpower and Fat Loss Automatic takes a new approach to getting leaner, fitter, and stronger. The program uses high-impact change strategies that make the process of adopting a healthy lifestyle easier. The nutrition and workout program, like the change techniques, have all been proven effective, and are all backed by research and scientific studies.

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