The Fat Loss Habit – Book Introduction

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Are you ready to reboot and reset your relationship with food and exercise? Most programs focus on the mechanics of weight loss, but fail to adequately address the psychology of change required. Most people know more than enough about nutrition and exercise to lose weight, but fail to take action. This book takes a new approach to getting leaner, fitter, and stronger. The program uses high impact change strategies that make the process of adopting a healthy lifestyle easier. The nutrition and workout program like the change techniques, have all been proven effective and are all backed by research and scientific studies.

This book is full of change strategies and provides a blueprint for how they can be applied to transforming your body. These strategies can also be used to transform your relationships, build your career, and improve your life. You will learn the importance of creating a sense of urgency around your goal, tweaking your environment to foster new habits, finding bright spots, and generating short term wins to help you sustain momentum. Motivation is fleeting, that is why you will learn techniques to keep you stoked. You will learn how to apply solution based therapy’s miracle question to subdue personal struggles. You will learn how Starbucks teaches willpower to their baristas to produce a first-class customer experience. You will learn about action triggers, and how they are the key to adopting instant habits. You will learn how to use your smart phone to lose body fat, improve your workouts, and create new habits.

You will learn how group norms help US soldiers returning from Vietnam, overcome heroin addiction. You will learn what is often perceived as a “people problem”, is often a “situation problem. It is much easier to change one’s environment, than one’s attitude and behaviors. You will learn about internal struggles between your logical brain and your emotional brain, and how you can leverage their respective strengths to achieve your goals, instead of sabotaging them. You will learn to break the habit of procrastination by applying the 5 second rule. You will learn that measuring an activity, automatically modifies your behavior because of the increased attention it is receiving.

You will learn why you should prioritize strength training while on a weight loss program. Learn how to properly design strength training program, that can burn more calories than traditional cardio. Learn how to build strength and muscle based on science, not bro-science. Learn when and how to incorporate cardio sessions into your routine to get leaner, stronger, and fitter. Learn to prevent normal loss of muscle that occurs during most fat loss programs, which results in early plateau and gaining back the weight lost, and in some cases a few extra pounds. Learn three methods to keep the weight off and reset your body’s set point body weight. No foods or alcohol are off limits. This is not an extreme 12-week quick fix program. Those programs do not often work because they are not sustainable. This program is designed to fit in to your personal lifestyle.

There is a lot of inspiration in the pages of this book. In many cases, real life examples are used to illustrate the effectiveness of the strategies being taught. You will learn how an unwelcome American advisor, with meager resources, and a limited timeframe to achieve significant results, was able to solve the problem of childhood malnutrition for millions of Vietnamese children. You will be surprised to learn that solution to complex problems, are often simple if you observe the patterns surrounding them. For example, a US Military Army Officer, in Kufa, Iraq; noticed that preceding violent riots, protesters would gather at dusk and shortly thereafter food trucks would fill the plaza. After requesting the food trucks not enter the plaza at dusk, the number of riots dramatically dropped.

Most people would agree with the statement that we are the result of the thousands of decisions we have made during the course of our lives. If you are overweight, it is a result of the many decisions you make daily; particularly eating and drinking choices. Your daily habits are what make you who you are. Confucius said that “men’s natures are alike; it is their habits that carry them far apart”

What if I told you that most of our daily decisions are made automatically? The area of our brain responsible for cognitive thought fatigues quickly, and can become overwhelmed if it is force to make too many decisions. This condition is called “decision fatigue.” Many business leaders suggest that you tackle complex problems and make difficult decisions early in the day, when your energy is at its highest, and reserve less complex tasks for the afternoon. Albert Einstein and Steve Jobs were said to have simplified their lives by having their closets full of identical outfits, to avoid having to decide what to wear each day. President Obama said, “You will see I wear only gray or blue suits… I am trying to pare down decisions. I do not want to make decisions about what I am eating or wearing. Because I have too many other (important) decisions to make.”

The basal ganglia, sometimes called our primitive brain or reptilian brain, was once thought to only help control movement; but is now thought to play an important role in how we learn, process emotions, make decisions, and adopt habits. It is the part of our brain that takes over when you are performing repetitive daily activities. This primitive brain, frees our conscious mind from having to make countless decisions we face each day. Many of these decisions are inconsequential. Decisions like which pant leg to put on first, or putting Splenda in your coffee mug before creamer. It is a huge advantage to delegate these task to the basal ganglia, so the conscious brain can focus on more important decisions. Have you ever gotten into your car and drove towards your work instead of driving to your doctor’s office, even though your conscious mind knew you had a doctor’s appointment? That is because your conscious mind was not in the driver’s seat. It was your primitive brain directing action out of habit. What is habit? Habit is an automatic behavior.

Habits are not good or bad. We place those labels on them based on whether they are or are not in line with our goals, objectives, and in some cases, “perception of our own reality”. They are simply learned behaviors. “Bad” habits can be interrupted and replaced by “good” habits. You just need to muster up enough discipline to make the new routine stick. Fortunately, we can change our habits and do it quickly by creating action triggers. Action triggers create new habits almost instantaneously. You will learn more about that later.

Please stop believing the notion you are overweight or unfit because you lack the willpower, have a slow metabolism, your lazy, you do not have time, or any of the excuses we all make. Trust me, I was once an overweight kid. My father was never able to shed the extra pounds, try as hard as he did. He was always overweight, like his father before him, who died of a heart attack during my father’s freshman year in high school. In one of those life changing moments, I decided I was not going to be fat. No one would put that fat label on me. I committed to daily exercise, gave up all sweets, and no junk food. That was it, that was my plan. The only difference between me, my father, and his father before him, was that I decided to change. I was committed to that decision and doggedly stuck with it, day after day until I lost the weight, which led me into a life of fitness and self-awareness. Some might say, it led me to an appreciation of a healthier lifestyle without giving up on what most people were doing.

Exercising was the easiest part for me, I enjoyed exercising. My father introduced me to exercise. He let me use his Cement Weight set in our basement and let me read all his Joe Weider Muscle and Fitness magazines. I was at that age when you love spending time with your parents. He would take me with him when he would go running around the local reservoirs, or through the woods of Brookdale Park, in my hometown of Montclair, New Jersey. I enjoy the simple rhythmic nature of running, which always cleared my mind. I rode my bike everywhere and relished the feeling of exertion that came from climbing up Mount Hebron road, and the rush of going back down at high speeds. I can still remember our dark dank unfinished basement, my dungeon. It was the place where I first pushed and pulled weights, making my muscles get stronger.

Giving up desserts was the hardest part, made more difficult by my family’s love of it. We ate out often and everyone order desserts. It was hard, it was very hard to just not succumb to temptation. Holsten’s Brookdale Confectionery was the restaurant we patronized most often. It is still well known for their homemade ice-creams and chocolates. Also made famous as the diner in which the last scene of The Sopranos was filmed. It was tough not making an excuse. I had to ignore that voice that said, “Everyone else is having some, why should I not?” It was rough, but I was resolute. I was not going to be fat. I was going to strengthen my body like the heroes in my comic books. Silly, but I was only ten years old. I did not know what I was doing, but I was doing it. Moreover, I was doing it enthusiastically. Over time it became easier to say no to desserts, and eventually they stop asking me if I wanted any.

You are not doomed to be overweight. You simply need to commit. Without commitment, you will never start. The program will not work unless you work. This program is unique from any other program you may have tried in the past, because it provides practical tips and tricks that make the process of change as easy as possible. The high impact change techniques coupled the books nutrition program will transform your body. You will be surprised how quickly you will burn away fat, and achieve a leaner stronger body. GOOD LUCK!

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I hope you enjoyed reading this book introduction. Best wishes and best health!

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The book contains:

·       7 Change Strategies for Adopting a Healthy Lifestyle

·       A Flexible Diet Program that Doesn’t Put Any Foods Off-limit,  including Alcohol

·       20-Week Workout Log with Progress Assessments (Downloadable PDF)

·       3 Strategies for Resetting your Body Weight Set point to Keep the Weight Off

·       A Nutrition and Training Program Based on Science, not Bro Science.

 

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WHAT WE THINK, WE BECOME, SO HOW DO WE IMPROVE OUR THINKING

Be careful of your thoughts, for your thoughts become your words.

Be careful of your words, for your words become your actions.

Be careful of your actions, for your actions become your habits.

Be careful of your habits, for your habits become your character.

Be careful of your character, for your character becomes your destiny.

— Chinese proverb

Everything we do begins with our thoughts. Every word we speak, every action we take or fail to take. Our habitual ways of acting and ultimately our character. Our thoughts have a profound impact on our lives, but how much attention do we give to controlling our thoughts. How do we improve our thoughts?

What is thought? If you are like me, you have rarely spent any time contemplating what thought really is. You might say it is an inner dialog, which is true, but I believe a better answer is that thought is the questions we ask ourselves. If you agree that in its essence thought is the questions we ask ourselves, the key to thinking better is simply asking ourselves better questions. Better questions; better thinking.

For example, when things go wrong, instead of saying, “why am I so dumb or why do I always do this?” A better question would be, what can I learn from this mistake? What will I do differently next time?

When we make a poor eating decision, instead of saying, “why am I so weak?” Ask yourself, “how can I exercise better self-control next time?” Could I have brought a healthy snack to help me avoid the temptation? Ask yourself, “could I have pinched my waist as a painful reminder of what eating junk food is doing to my body?”

If we want to do better, we must think better. We are a product of our decisions, not our circumstances. If we are overweight, the chances are that our family is too, so it is easy to say, why are my genetics so bad? Why can’t I ever seem to lose the weight?

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Those are lousy questions. Genetics play a role in our ability to gain and lose weight, but a quick Instagram search under #weightlosstransformations and you’ll see hundreds of thousands of people that have transformed their bodies. Their genetics didn’t change. Their family members are probably still overweight. So what changed? Their decisions changed. Better decisions, better outcomes.

Everyone likes to blame genetics because they are out of our control, but group norms are just as powerful. If our family is overweight, how do they eat? What types of food do they eat? How often do they exercise. Are they really a product of their genetics or their lifestyle?

If we want to produce better results in our lives, it all begins with better thoughts. We are the only beings on the planet that can make ourselves happy or sad just by controlling our thoughts.

Your thoughts are powerful. They shape your habits and your habits shape you. We are a product of our habits. We are what we habitually do, but it all begins with the way we habitually think.

 

Better thinking leads to better decisions. Better decisions lead to better habits. Change your habits, change your life! 

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Are you ready to reboot and reset your relationship with food and exercise? Most programs focus on the mechanics of weight loss but fail to adequately address the psychology of change required. Most people know more than enough about nutrition and exercise to lose weight, but fail to act. This book takes a new approach to getting leaner, fitter, and stronger. 

The Fat Loss Habit: Creating Routines that Make Willpower and Fat Loss Automatic takes a new approach to getting leaner, fitter, and stronger. The program uses high-impact change strategies that make the process of adopting a healthy lifestyle easier. The nutrition and workout program, like the change techniques, have all been proven effective, and are all backed by research and scientific studies.

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The Habit: Week-6 (Find Pleasure in the Process)

This week’s challenge is to find pleasure in the process. Discipline is the ability to force ourselves to do what we should do when we should do it. It is something we all struggle with and must develop, but motivation can be a more powerful driver of action. What if you could find pleasure in the tasks you must do. If you can equate pleasure with the task, you’ll be a lot more successful. “Pleasure in the job puts perfection in the work.” – Aristotle

If you don’t enjoy what you do, you aren’t really successful. Finding pleasure in the job is our responsibility. Our attitude toward what we do is a choice we make each day. We are responsible for our own happiness. We are responsible for our attitude toward our work, toward our relationships, and toward our life. If we cannot find happiness in our daily routine, we aren’t really successful.

“If you love your work, if you enjoy it, you’re already a success.” – Jack Canfiel

Lasting happiness doesn’t come from our achievements. Happiness comes from finding pleasure in our daily routine. Happiness requires frequent refreshing. It is a tree that requires daily watering to grow and flourish. It is our responsibility to find these pleasures in our daily routines to be happy. So how do we find pleasure in performing work that on the surface isn’t enjoyable?

Our attitude is a choice.This choice begins with a decision. The decision is to decide what things mean. What meaning do you attach to the task? Everything we do has a purpose, a meaning. We must find out what that is. Arnold Schwarzenegger was asked why he smiled during his long, 5-hour workouts.

Arnold’s attitude toward his training separated him from the other bodybuilders. While they seem to dread the long grueling workouts that were required to achieve a massive physique, he enjoyed them. He said he enjoyed the heavy lifting. He looked forward to every heavy set because he knew that each set was bringing him one step closer to his goal of becoming the greatest bodybuilder of all time.

Arnold was able to connect what he was doing with his desired outcome. That is why his attitude was so much better than the other bodybuilders. His attitude towards his training made him one of the greatest bodybuilders of all time.

Pain is weakness leaving the body. I heard this mantra numerous times at West Point and during my career in the military. I knew it was a tool to get us to push harder during physical training, but it wasn’t until years later that I truly understood the psychology behind the mantra. The mantra changed our neuro-association of pain with the pleasure of toughening the body and polishing the spirit. Pain becomes a pleasure.

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CT Fletcher, former powerlifting champion, and fitness motivational speaker can often be heard in the gym saying, “I look for you pain.” He invites pain. He says it is his friend because he equates pain with growth. Muhammad Ali said, “I do not count my sit-ups. I only start counting when it starts hurting. That is when I start counting because then it really counts.”

To achieve extraordinary results, you must have an extraordinary attitude toward your work. Discipline can only get you so far. Motivation is a greater catalyst for action. If you can find meaning and pleasure in what you do on a daily basis, you’ll achieve excellence. When you find pleasure in the daily disciplines that are required to be successful, success is all but assured.

“Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present.” – Jim Rohn

 If you cannot find pleasure in what you do, I suggest you find something that you can. Our attitude affects our performance. Poor attitude, poor performance. Great attitude, great performance. Most people neglect to cultivate a great attitude. Don’t let that be you. Your attitude affects everything you do. It effects your effort. It affects your smile. It affects your handshake.

Success requires hard work, but it doesn’t have to be drudgery. When you love what you do, work isn’t agony, it’s a pleasure. We achieve more success when we enjoy what we do, but more importantly, you’ll live a more fulfilling life.

If you cannot find happiness in the process of achieving your goals, you aren’t really successful. Achievements that don’t produce sustained happiness produce an unsatisfying life. Most people don’t enjoy what they do. Most people say, “Thank God it’s Friday.” This poor attitude is normal, but you don’t have to be average. “Success is doing what the failures won’t” – Jim Rohn. We should all enjoy our weekends, but we should also enjoy our weekdays. We should enjoy our lives.

The average worker will tell you it is called work for a reason. The prevailing attitude is that work shouldn’t be pleasurable. I suggest that we take another approach to our work. If we want to achieve above average results, we have to cultivate an above average attitude towards our work. If we can make work more enjoyable, why shouldn’t we?

“Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do.” – Steve Jobs

One thing that universally makes all of us happy is progress. When we are getting better, in any area of our lives, we feel great. We feel like a winner. “

Progress equals happiness. Progress is the game.” Tony Robbins

 Every small win, every item checked off our to-do list makes us feel great. It releases dopamine. Dopamine is the chemical most closely related to long-term happiness.When our dopamine system is activated,we are more positive, excited and eager to go after goals.

The Progress Principle: Using Small Wins to Ignite Joy, Engagement, and Creativity at Work explains how progress improves the inner work life of employees and teams. Improvements in inner work life drive higher levels of performance and engagement; which in turn leads to better progress and enhanced inner work life. The author calls these reinforcing benefits, the “progress loop.” As you make progress, you rack-up small wins. These small wins make us feel great about ourselves, which stimulates the release of dopamine. When we are making progress in any area of our life, it gives us a sense of accomplishment. It gives us a sense of worth.

Hopefully, we can all agree that we have the power to change how we feel about our work by changing our attitude toward it. Here are some simple strategies to take more pleasure in what you do:

1)    Create a list, in your journal, of the reasons you LOVE doing something that the average person would find unpleasant. For example, I have formed the habit of starting each day with 30-minutes of technical reading, by creating a list of reasons. I love starting each day with technical reading because:

  1. It will make me an expert in my field
  2. It will make me more valuable to my company and to myself
  3. It will help me get promoted
  4. It will help me earn more money
  5. It will prepare me for future opportunities

2)    Create a system for tracking small wins. Small wins help us to sustain motivation. Creating a daily to-do list and crossing off items as they are accomplished makes us feel great about ourselves. If you really want to do well at work, make sure you start each day with your most important task. The more impactful the task, the more it will contribute to your success. Don’t mistake being busy with being productive.

3)    Track your consistency. We are naturally more consistent when we track our consistency. If your goal is to make 10 cold calls a day. You could use a habit-forming app like Strides, Streaks, Fabulous, and Toodledo to track your consistency. Each time you record another successful day with the app, congratulate yourself. Celebrate this small victory. Say, “I am proud of myself today, good job!” Every small win activates our dopamine system and motivates us to go after our goals with greater vigor.

4)    When you feel your enthusiasm starting to wane, listen to something inspiring. Cynical people deride motivation because it doesn’t last. Tell me what lasts? Bathing doesn’t last, so should we stop doing it? Brushing our teeth doesn’t last, so maybe we should quit doing it? Coaches give their teams motivational speeches on a regular basis. Why do you think that is? Because it is effective. Motivation is the desire to do. When our desire to do is waining, we need to take action. You can find a ton of great motivational videos on YouTube. These videos are FREE. It doesn’t get much easier than FREE. Download your favorite to your smartphone and reach for it every time your motivation begins to wane.

5)    Force yourself to smile while you’re performing the task. Forcing yourself to smile, will improve your mood. Physiology has been shown to influence our psychology. Some have suggested that the paradigm we have been taught all our lives, that we smile when we are happy is backward. I don’t believe it is backward. I believe that it works both ways. I believe that our psychology and physiology are linked together in a push-pull relationship, with each affecting the other.

In the military, I was taught that false motivation was better than no motivation. I thought it was just a means of getting us to push ourselves harder during tough training, which it did, but I also discovered that it changed my attitude. Pretend motivation, leads to genuine motivation. Our mind seeks alignment between our thoughts, attitudes, and behaviors. The psychological term that describes a disharmony between attitude and behavior is called cognitive dissonance. When there is a lack of harmony between our attitudes and behaviors we seek to reduce that cognitive dissonance. When you force a smile, it signals to the mind that you are happy. Your body reduces levels of stress hormones like adrenaline and cortisol and increases levels of endorphins and dopamine.[i]

We should enjoy our work. As Steve Jobs said, it is going to fill a large part of our lives. We shouldn’t wait to enjoy our lives. We should enjoy each day, our workdays as well as our weekends. If we can’t find daily pleasure in our life, what is the point? If we achieve great results but don’t find any fulfillment in their accomplishment, are we truly successful?

I hope that you will take what you have learned this week and apply it. We are all responsible for our own happiness. Happiness is a choice we all make, and it begins with what we focus on each day. I hope you will choose to focus on what brings you pleasure.

Until next week, good luck, best wishes and best health!

Attitude is a habitual way of thinking. Change your habits, change your life! 

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Print Book Cover 09.25.2017The Fat Loss Habit: Creating Routines that Make Willpower and Fat Loss Automatic takes a new approach to getting leaner, fitter, and stronger. The program uses high-impact change strategies that make the process of adopting a healthy lifestyle easier. The nutrition and workout program, like the change techniques, have all been proven effective, and are all backed by research and scientific studies.

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[i] JULIETTE SIEGFRIED, Want to Be Happier? Smile More!,

Make ONE REAL RESOLUTION this Year

This is the time of year where the word resolution is misused by millions of people. We will examine the formal definition. Next, we will look at how it is commonly applied to New Year’s Resolutions. Last, we will examine what it means to go after a goal with true resolve and how you can make this year different than any other year.

I am not a fan of New Year’s Resolutions because I don’t think most people actually make resolutions. They make a list of things they would like to happen. They will usually attach a list of actions they should do to achieve it. Should is a word for the underachiever. It implies that your values aren’t in line with your actions. No one does what they should. They do what they must. They do what is in line with their true values.

That brings us to the formal definition of resolution; a firm decision to do or not to do something. The critical word in this definition is the word decision. Tony Robbins provides the best definition of the word decision.

 

“A real decision is measured by the fact that you have taken action. If there is no action, you have not really decided.” – Tony Robbins

A real resolution is when we commit to doing something until our goal is reached. Attaching deadlines to goals is important, to create a sense of urgency and avoid procrastination, but when we truly resolve to do something, we promise ourselves we will never quit until we have achieved it.

When we resolve to achieve something, we are saying, we will do it until. We will do it or die. Sounds serious. A true resolution is serious. We make resolutions because we aren’t satisfied with some aspect of our life. We aren’t going to improve it with a half-hearted desire to do better.

“How long should you try? Until.”— Jim Rohn

This year, we can choose to take a new approach.

 

Two-step process:

1)    Identify ONE Keystone Habit that will eventually produce our desired outcome.

2)    Resolve to do it daily, until our goal is reached.

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I don’t know what your goal is, but I have provided some typical goals and the keystone habits associated with them. The best way to improve your consistency is to track it. The Strides app allows you to create instant habits by programming action trigger reminders. The app also tracks completion of each daily task. Recording completion of these activities will naturally cause you to become more consistent. What gets measured, gets managed!

Goal

Keystone Habit

Lose body fat Log your food to create a caloric deficit
Get fit Daily exercise (find something you’ll enjoy doing)
Get out of debt Log your spending
Improve your attitude Create a gratitude list
Become an expert Read 30-60 minutes daily on the topic
Become a better writer Daily writing
Improve your relationship Learn your partner’s primary love language and take one daily action.

You’ll need to read the 5 Love Languages.

Author on Oprah

We often make the mistake of making too many changes at once. This causes us to dilute our efforts and our results. We will do better if we focus on making one change at a time. A large measure of Steve Jobs’ success at Apple, can be attributed to his ability to focus all his energy on one great idea at a time. He realized to produce phenomenal products, he had to narrow his focus.

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An entire book was written about the power and necessity of focusing our efforts on one goal at a time. The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results by Gary Keller and Jay Papasan, asserts that by focusing your energy on one thing at a time, you can live a more rewarding life, build your career, and improve your personal relationships.[i]

Crucial to our success will be adopting the keystone activity long enough for it to become a habit. The latest research suggests it takes approximately 2-months to make a habit sustainable. During the initiation phase of the behavior, I highly recommend you get a daily dose of motivation.

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We are told motivation is fickle and doesn’t last. That is absolutely correct, that is why we should recharge our motivational batteries daily, especially when we are adopting a new behavior. A fantastic video to get you started is Morning Motivation by Video Advice. Here are a few of my favorite channels: Be Inspired, Success Archive, Motivation2Study, MotivationGrind, Motivational Videos, Motivation Archives, and the MulliganBrothers. Subscribe to some channels and download a few videos on your phone so you can listen to them when you need a quick pep-talk.

I hope this year we will choose to make a real resolution. We will know if we have made a real resolution if we take immediate action. Take action while the information is fresh and your feelings are strong.

 “Here is the time to act; when the idea is hot, and the emotion is strong. The problem with waiting until tomorrow is that when it finally arrives, it is called today.”— Jim Rohn

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Are you ready to reboot and reset your relationship with food and exercise? Most programs focus on the mechanics of weight loss but fail to adequately address the psychology of change required. Most people know more than enough about nutrition and exercise to lose weight, but fail to take action. This book takes a new approach to getting leaner, fitter, and stronger.

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The book contains:

  • 7 Change Strategies for Adopting a Healthy Lifestyle
  • A Flexible Diet Program that Doesn’t Put Any Foods Off-limit, including Alcohol
  • 20-Week Workout Log with Progress Assessments (Downloadable PDF)
  • 3 Strategies for Resetting your Body Weight Setpointto Keep the Weight Off
  • A Nutrition and Training Program Based on Science, not Bro Science.

The Fat Loss Habit: Creating Routines that Make Willpower and Fat Loss Automatic takes a new approach to getting leaner, fitter, and stronger. The program uses high-impact change strategies that make the process of adopting a healthy lifestyle easier. The nutrition and workout program, like the change techniques, have all been proven effective, and are all backed by research and scientific studies.

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[i] Gary Keller, and Jay Papasan, The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results, Bard Press; 1 edition (April 1, 2013)

The Habit: Week-5 (Attitude is a Choice)

This week’s challenge is to identify one self-defeating attitude you have and fix it with a list designed to refocus your thoughts. It sounds to simple to possibly work, but it isn’t. By the end of this article, you will know why it works and more importantly how it works.

We all have an area of our life where we need to improve our attitude. We know that our attitude is affecting our decisions. Our lives are created by our decisions. It is often said that life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we respond to it. Bad things happen to everyone, but what makes the difference is what we decide it means and what we decide to do about it. We can not ignore problems, but the best way to solve them is to focus on solutions; not the problem itself.

“Where focus goes energy flows.” – Tony Robins

 Bad things happen to everyone, but you don’t have to be a victim. Being a victim is a choice. Perhaps you have a terrible boss. You aren’t going to change him, but you can change how you react to him. Instead of focusing on him, you can focus on yourself. Are you letting him affect your attitude and work ethic? Those things are under your control. You can focus on the good aspects of your job. You can focus on developing your skills and expertise. You can focus on finding a better job.

Instead of getting upset or depressed about the situation, it is healthier to get angry. Anger will cause you to take action. Depression is crippling. When we choose to play the victim, we relinquish our control. We become helpless. We must focus on what we can control and do to take care of the problem. Blaming others robs us of our ability to solve the problem. When we blame someone else for our problem, instead of taking ownership, we must wait for someone to fix it for us. When we take ownership of our problems, we take ownership of the solutions that will fix the problem. If you hate your job, do something about it besides complaining. Get excited about finding a better job. Visualize telling your boss, “I quit!” after you have found a better job.

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In the book, Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin, the core concept is that you are responsible for everything.[i] That’s it! Ownership is a powerful concept to embrace. It is extremely empowering to acknowledge that we are responsible for everything good or bad in our life. When we take ownership, when we assume responsibility, we take control of our life. We are no longer a victim of circumstances. We no longer let ourselves off the hook with excuses. We realize that everything is within our control. We reclaim our power. Taking action is the cure to unhappiness. The catalyst for action is the removal of excuses.

We cannot control what happens, but we have total control over our decisions. Our attitude is a decision. We know a good attitude produces good results, a poor attitude produces poor results. For one person it could be working out, for another person, it could be their attitude toward work. Our attitudes affect everything. This week’s challenge is to identify one self-defeating attitude and improve it by creating a gratitude list and reading it twice a day.

By now, your inner cynic is saying this sounds like a fairytale. Please keep reading, and I’ll explain how you can improve your attitude with a simple list. When we form a bad attitude, it is because we have decided to focus on what is wrong instead of what is right. When we begin a relationship we tend to focus on what we like about the other person, then, over time, we take all those things for granted and focus on the things that annoy us about the person. If you want to rekindle your romance, make an effort to write down a list of traits you appreciate in your partner and reading it each day.

Our mind’s primitive programming is designed for our survival, not our happiness. Our programming makes us fault finders instead of merit finders. When we are lonely, we focus on finding someone to fill that need. Once we are with someone, we tend to focus on how they don’t fulfill us, vs. all the ways they do. Happiness requires that we control our thoughts. Happiness requires us to focus on what we already have instead of what we are lacking. Happy people don’t live charmed lives. They experience failures and tragedies, but they get past them by focusing on all that is good, instead of all that is bad. It really is that simple.

Long-term happiness flows from our daily routines. What we focus on each day. Wealthy people are no happier than the average person. The material things that wealth can purchase provide only momentary joy. Happiness is a conscious choice. Happy people appreciate the simple pleasures of daily life. Your happiness is dependent on what you focus on each day. If you focus on being grateful for what you have, instead of resentful for what you do not have, you will be happy. If you focus on all the blessings in your life, instead of all your misfortunes, you will be happy.

Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be.” – Abraham Lincoln

Our attitude toward anything is a product of our thoughts. If we focus on what we don’t like about our job, of course, we will have a terrible attitude. If instead, we focus on all the benefits we receive from our job, our attitude will improve. If we can find meaning in what we do, how it helps others and adds value, it will improve our attitude. This technique for improving our attitude isn’t complicated. It is really common sense, but unfortunately, we live in a world of negativity where people would rather complain and find fault. Complaining doesn’t require any effort, and it lets them off the hook. It isn’t their fault. It is someone else’s fault. Again the problem with this attitude is that they are relinquishing control. They must wait for someone else to solve their problem. They might be waiting forever for that to happen.

If we know we have a poor attitude, we can fix it, but it requires effort. In the absence of light, there is darkness. In the absence of diligence, neglect will take its place. Our attitude profoundly affects our decisions and results, so perhaps we shouldn’t neglect them. Zig Ziglar tells a fantastic story of a woman he helped using the technique I am going to suggest to you and that I have used personally in my own life.

Zig described her condition as a severe case of “stinking thinking.” She said she hated her job and everyone she worked with. Ironically, when Zig told her she was probably going to lose her job because of her attitude, she immediately asked him for help. He asked her to create a list of reasons why she liked her job. Her first response was, “that is going to be easy, I don’t like anything about my job.” With a little coaxing, he was able to get her to create a list of 22 reasons why she liked her job. Then he told her to re-write her list at the end of the day, after everything else had been done, replacing the word “like” with “love.”

Each evening before going to bed, she was to re-read the list, in front of a mirror, with all the enthusiasm she could muster. Zig emphasized the importance of reading the list in front of a mirror because our eyes are the windows to our soul. You have to make a concerted effort to generate as much enthusiasm as possible. The psychological reason why reading the list works is called cognitive dissonance.

Most people know that attitude effects behavior, but the reverse is also true. You can change your attitude and character by changing your behavior. Did you know that forcing yourself to smile will improve your mood? At West Point, I was taught that false motivation was better than no motivation. I thought it was just a means of getting us to push ourselves harder during tough training, which it did, but I also discovered that it changed my attitude.

Pretend motivation, leads to genuine motivation. Our mind seeks alignment between our thoughts, attitudes, and behaviors. The psychological term that describes a disharmony between attitude and behavior is called cognitive dissonance. When there is a lack of harmony between our attitudes and behaviors we seek to reduce that cognitive dissonance. Our attitudes will shift to reduce this disharmony. If someone is forced to do something that isn’t in line with their beliefs, their beliefs will begin to change to reduce the conflict. Everyone knows that smoking is terrible for our health, but a smoker will reduce the conflict by convincing themselves that a longer life devoid of smoking isn’t worth living.

Now back to our story of the woman with the case of stinking thinking. Each morning she was to re-read the list and then take the list to work, so she could add to it as she realized other aspects of her job she appreciated. Adding to her list, replaced her habit of fault finding with the habit of merit finding. Breaking a bad habit is best done by replacing it with a good habit.

Three months later she tracked him down. She was excited to tell him she was doing wonderfully well. She said, ”You cannot believe how much those people down there have changed.” Of course, they hadn’t changed, or if they did, it was because of her improved attitude toward them. All change begins with us. The best way to change someone’s attitude and behavior towards us is to change our attitude and behavior toward them. I highly recommend you watch the video. Zig was a master storyteller. Best Motivational Speaking Attitude get rid of Stinking Thinking Zig Ziglar

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When we read a list of reasons why we love something, we are really saying we are grateful for it. Gratitude is the healthiest of all human emotions. We cannot be angry, sad, or miserable when we are grateful. Those negative emotions are incompatible with gratitude. It isn’t having what we want that makes us happy or have a good attitude toward life. If we are ungrateful for what we have, we will have a bad outlook on life. There are lots of miserable people living in mansions, and many extremely happy people living in poverty. Attitude and happiness are a choice.

Realize that if we have a bad attitude toward healthy eating, exercise, work, or our relationships, that is a choice we are making. Each day, each moment we are making a choice to either focus on the positive or the negative. We can choose to focus on what we have and what we stand to gain, or we can focus on what we are lacking and the sacrifices we must make. We can focus on peoples’ imperfections or their positive qualities. These are choices. As Zig put it, you can choose to be a “fault finder or a good finder.”

“You can choose to be a fault finder or a good finder” – Zig Ziglar

I hope you’ll choose to create a list that will improve your attitude with the life-changing power of gratitude. It isn’t difficult to do, but unfortunately, most people will let it slide. They might agree with what I have written, but they won’t take that first step and create the list. I suggest you be different. Don’t let that be you. Grab a piece of paper or write in your journal, at least 10 positive things that could shift your attitude. Please do it now.

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It has been my experience that if we don’t take action when the idea is fresh, and our enthusiasm is high, we will never take action. Don’t let that be you. You deserve better. You deserve an extraordinary life. You deserve a happy life, not one limited by a self-defeating attitude. Most people neglect to exert control over their thoughts. Most people will let their thoughts flow in whatever direction they want, instead of making a conscious effort to control where they go. I challenge you to be better than most people.

Until next week, good luck, best wishes and best health!

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[i] Jocko Willink and Leif Babin, Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win, St. Martin’s Press; First Edition (October 20, 2015)

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