Everyday removes the need to make a decision. The behavior becomes automatic. No need to stop and think about what day it is. Every day is Monday. I start virtually every day the same. I wake-up at the same time and the first hour is always the same. I thrive on the regularity. I love how it sets the tone for the rest of my day. That first hour is magical. It is life changing. Continue reading THE EVERYDAY METHOD OF HABIT FORMATION
“Make no little plans; they have no magic to stir men’s blood and probably themselves will not be realized.”
Daniel Burnham, American architect, and urban planner.
We should all Dream Big. Big dreams not only inspire us but attract others. Few dreams are realized through individual effort. Big dreams will help you build a team of like-minded dreamers. We should always begin with a strong WHY and a BIG DREAM. They will be our rod and staff, sustaining us through our journey. Continue reading “Dream BIG, but set realistic goals.”
“Accountability is the glue that ties commitment to the result.” Bob Proctor
If you struggle to keep promises to yourself but find it is easier to keep commitments to others, you should use that to your advantage. Ask your spouse or a trusted friend to be your accountability partner. An accountability partner is a potent tool for anyone who struggles to keep promises to themselves, which means it is a powerful tool for anyone. None of us are perfect. We are all striving to do better, or we have given up on doing better. If you are struggling, congratulate yourself for not giving up like so many people have. Perhaps your accountability partner is also struggling with forming a good habit or eliminating a bad habit. You can help each other. You can give each other that little-added push to do better.
Once you have identified someone to be your accountability partner, follow this simple three-step process:
- Tell them your goal.
- Tell them what you plan to do each day to achieve your goal.
- Schedule a weekly check-in to review your triumphs and failures.
Ensure your goal is measurable. If you cannot quantify it, you cannot measure your progress toward achieving it. Let your accountability partner know what daily disciplines you are going to install to reach your goal. Put your weekly check-ins on your calendar as a reoccurring weekly meeting. What gets scheduled gets done. This check-in must be a consistent event for it to be effective.
People that are casual about pursuing their goals become life’s casualties. They are continually disappointed in themselves, but not too disappointed because they never really expected to achieve their results. They never put pressure on themselves to produce results.
Casual people take a lax approach to life. They have no written goals, and they don’t share the vague goals rattling around in their head with anyone else. The only time they come up is when they complain about not reaching them. These are the same people that waste their best hours chatting, gossiping, watching TV or addicted to social media.
Serious people expect to make progress. If their goal is to lose weight, they set weekly goals. They track their food to ensure they create a caloric deficit. They share their goal with supportive friends who they check-in with regularly to share their progress and frustrations. They spend their time with people that have achieved their goal and will be a positive influence on them. They put internal and external pressure on themselves to make consistent progress.
When someone tells me their frustration with losing body fat I begin by asking them, how many calories they are eating each day. When they say they don’t know, I know they aren’t serious. Many people complain about their genetics, but when I ask them how many calories they are eating each day, they don’t know. If you don’t know how many calories you are consuming each day, don’t expect to lose much weight or keep it off. Continue reading Be Serious, Don’t Be Casual
Habits are the invisible engineers of our lives.
The best way I know to engineer a better life is by engineering better habits. We have the most control over the bookends of our day. Wake-up reading, writing in a journal and exercising. Don’t fall into the common trap of making a living and not designing a life. It is so easy to lose sight of what is important. I did it for years. It is only recently that I realized that I need to stop, stand still, and assess. Continue reading Each Day is Your Life in Miniature