Achievement without Fulfillment is Failure

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William James described success as a combination of two things.

1) An inner ideal which is followed persistently with courage and

2) an Outer achievement related to that ideal.

Society tends to fixate on the accomplishment of the outer achievement related to that ideal, and not the inner ideal that was followed with courage and determination. William James thought that of the two components that the first was much more important than the second. The pursuit of an inner ideal leads to personal growth and development which is its own form of happiness.

 According to William James focusing on the outer achievement related to the ideal is a mistake. Long-term happiness flows from our daily habits and routine. Personal growth provides the most lasting happiness in our lives. When we feel like we are getting better at anything, we feel good about ourselves.

Progress equals happiness.” Tony Robbins

The greatest reward of success is who we are forced to become. Becoming world class at anything requires tremendous effort and dedication. It is the pursuit of this ideal that molds a person into one deserving of recognition.  

Most people think that wealth is a sign of success. It is a common belief that wealth and the material things that it will allow us to purchase will make them happy. Material objects only provide short-lived happiness. Studies have demonstrated that wealthy people are not happier than people of average economic means.

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Happiness isn’t something we should defer. We should avoid the mistake of attaching our happiness to the accomplishment of an outer ideal. We must have goals. We must be inspired. Goals are hugely important because they affect how we live. They affect our attitude, our handshake, our smile, and our energy.

We all need to have goals, but when you attach all of your happiness to achieving those goals, you will miss out on all the happiness you could enjoy along the way. The happiness you’ll experience when you achieve the goal will not long last. Then what?

Enjoy the journey toward achieving your goal. Most of your life will be spent in pursuit of your outer ideal, not basking in its accomplishment. Life is a journey. Enjoy every day. It is our responsibility to focus on the simple pleasures of living. This usually begins with gratitude. It is easy to focus on our problems and setbacks and forget all our blessings. Connect with the simple pleasure of everyday living.

Our happiness flows from our daily routines and habitual ways of thinking. If you cannot find happiness while you pursue your inner ideal, you’ll never achieve lasting fulfillment and happiness. You’ll never be successful.

Travis Bradberry, co-author of the New York Times Best Seller, Emotional Intelligence 2.0 wrote a great article for Forbes magazine Ten Habits of Incredibly Happy People. He lists these ten habits:

  1. They slow down to appreciate life’s little pleasures.
  2. They exercise, which improves their mood and helps them control their impulses.
  3. They spend money on other people.
  4. They surround themselves with the right people. They distance themselves from negative people.
  5. They stay positive. Even when bad things happened to them.
  6. They get enough sleep. Getting enough sleep helps mood, focus, energy, and self-control.
  7. They have deep conversations and build emotional connections.
  8. They help others, which releases chemicals into their body that make them feel good.
  9. They make an effort to be happy. They make a conscious decision to be happy and appreciative.
  10. They have a growth mindset. They believe change is possible and tomorrow will be better than today.

 Happiness flows from what we habitually focus on each day. Change your habits, change your life! 

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Attitude & The story of Three Bricklayers

Our attitude affects everything. It effects when we get up each morning, our work ethic, our dedication, our energy levels, our smile, our handshake, and our results. It is easy to say have a good attitude, but how do you improve your attitude both for yourself and the people you lead.

The first step to improving your attitude is to become more grateful for what you already have. See my blog post. THE HABIT: Week-1 (Gratitude).

The next step is to find meaning in what you do. The more meaning you find in your work, the better your attitude will be. The story of Three Bricklayers building a church demonstrates the importance of finding meaning in what you do. All three men were doing the same work, but when they were asked what they were doing, the first bricklayer replied, “I’m laying bricks.” The second bricklayer said, “I am feeding my family.” The third bricklayer said, “I’m building the house of God.” Which one do you think took the most pride in his work?

Too many managers only think of monetary rewards to motivate people when they could motivate their employees by teaching them to find meaning in what they do. When people see how their work is making a difference to the company or to their community, it will motivate them to take more pride in what they do. Unless you are financially independent, you work to earn a salary, but I hope that isn’t the only reason you do what you do.

When Steve Jobs returned to Apple in 1997, the company was on the verge of bankruptcy.He held a staff meeting and explained the role passion would play in revitalizing the brand.

“Apple is not about making boxes for people to get their jobs done, although we do that well. Apple is about something more. Its core value is that we believe that people with passion can change the world for the better. – Steve Jobs

Steve Jobs prized passion over all other personality traits. It was the characteristic he valued most in employees.[i] He cultivated it. He ensured everyone understood they weren’t creating products, they were changing the world. Who wouldn’t want to shape the world?

He believed that smart, passionate employees don’t need to be managed. Their passion, intelligence, and drive will guide their actions; they simply needed to understand the company’s vision.

If we want to improve the attitude of those that we lead, we must lead with passion and ensure our team understands how our work adds value. It is simple to do, but how many managers do it. Perhaps they assume everyone understands how their work plays into the company’s mission. In my experience assumption is the mother of misunderstanding. If you want your people to be inspired, you must communicate your vision with passion.

Poor attitude, poor results. Great Attitude, great results. Improve your attitude, improve your life. Change your habits, change your life! 

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[i] Betsy Mikel, 1 Personality Trait Steve Jobs Always Looked for When Hiring for Apple, inc.com

Steve Jobs prized passion over all other personality traits. It was the characteristic he valued most in employees. He cultivated it. He ensured everyone understood they weren’t creating products, they were changing the world. Who wouldn’t want to shape the world? Steve Jobs prized passion over all other personality traits. It was the characteristic he valued most in employees. He cultivated it. He ensured everyone understood they weren’t creating products, they were changing the world. Who wouldn’t want to shape the world?

The Habit: Week-6 (Find Pleasure in the Process)

This week’s challenge is to find pleasure in the process. Discipline is the ability to force ourselves to do what we should do when we should do it. It is something we all struggle with and must develop, but motivation can be a more powerful driver of action. What if you could find pleasure in the tasks you must do. If you can equate pleasure with the task, you’ll be a lot more successful. “Pleasure in the job puts perfection in the work.” – Aristotle

If you don’t enjoy what you do, you aren’t really successful. Finding pleasure in the job is our responsibility. Our attitude toward what we do is a choice we make each day. We are responsible for our own happiness. We are responsible for our attitude toward our work, toward our relationships, and toward our life. If we cannot find happiness in our daily routine, we aren’t really successful.

“If you love your work, if you enjoy it, you’re already a success.” – Jack Canfiel

Lasting happiness doesn’t come from our achievements. Happiness comes from finding pleasure in our daily routine. Happiness requires frequent refreshing. It is a tree that requires daily watering to grow and flourish. It is our responsibility to find these pleasures in our daily routines to be happy. So how do we find pleasure in performing work that on the surface isn’t enjoyable?

Our attitude is a choice.This choice begins with a decision. The decision is to decide what things mean. What meaning do you attach to the task? Everything we do has a purpose, a meaning. We must find out what that is. Arnold Schwarzenegger was asked why he smiled during his long, 5-hour workouts.

Arnold’s attitude toward his training separated him from the other bodybuilders. While they seem to dread the long grueling workouts that were required to achieve a massive physique, he enjoyed them. He said he enjoyed the heavy lifting. He looked forward to every heavy set because he knew that each set was bringing him one step closer to his goal of becoming the greatest bodybuilder of all time.

Arnold was able to connect what he was doing with his desired outcome. That is why his attitude was so much better than the other bodybuilders. His attitude towards his training made him one of the greatest bodybuilders of all time.

Pain is weakness leaving the body. I heard this mantra numerous times at West Point and during my career in the military. I knew it was a tool to get us to push harder during physical training, but it wasn’t until years later that I truly understood the psychology behind the mantra. The mantra changed our neuro-association of pain with the pleasure of toughening the body and polishing the spirit. Pain becomes a pleasure.

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CT Fletcher, former powerlifting champion, and fitness motivational speaker can often be heard in the gym saying, “I look for you pain.” He invites pain. He says it is his friend because he equates pain with growth. Muhammad Ali said, “I do not count my sit-ups. I only start counting when it starts hurting. That is when I start counting because then it really counts.”

To achieve extraordinary results, you must have an extraordinary attitude toward your work. Discipline can only get you so far. Motivation is a greater catalyst for action. If you can find meaning and pleasure in what you do on a daily basis, you’ll achieve excellence. When you find pleasure in the daily disciplines that are required to be successful, success is all but assured.

“Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present.” – Jim Rohn

 If you cannot find pleasure in what you do, I suggest you find something that you can. Our attitude affects our performance. Poor attitude, poor performance. Great attitude, great performance. Most people neglect to cultivate a great attitude. Don’t let that be you. Your attitude affects everything you do. It effects your effort. It affects your smile. It affects your handshake.

Success requires hard work, but it doesn’t have to be drudgery. When you love what you do, work isn’t agony, it’s a pleasure. We achieve more success when we enjoy what we do, but more importantly, you’ll live a more fulfilling life.

If you cannot find happiness in the process of achieving your goals, you aren’t really successful. Achievements that don’t produce sustained happiness produce an unsatisfying life. Most people don’t enjoy what they do. Most people say, “Thank God it’s Friday.” This poor attitude is normal, but you don’t have to be average. “Success is doing what the failures won’t” – Jim Rohn. We should all enjoy our weekends, but we should also enjoy our weekdays. We should enjoy our lives.

The average worker will tell you it is called work for a reason. The prevailing attitude is that work shouldn’t be pleasurable. I suggest that we take another approach to our work. If we want to achieve above average results, we have to cultivate an above average attitude towards our work. If we can make work more enjoyable, why shouldn’t we?

“Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do.” – Steve Jobs

One thing that universally makes all of us happy is progress. When we are getting better, in any area of our lives, we feel great. We feel like a winner. “

Progress equals happiness. Progress is the game.” Tony Robbins

 Every small win, every item checked off our to-do list makes us feel great. It releases dopamine. Dopamine is the chemical most closely related to long-term happiness.When our dopamine system is activated,we are more positive, excited and eager to go after goals.

The Progress Principle: Using Small Wins to Ignite Joy, Engagement, and Creativity at Work explains how progress improves the inner work life of employees and teams. Improvements in inner work life drive higher levels of performance and engagement; which in turn leads to better progress and enhanced inner work life. The author calls these reinforcing benefits, the “progress loop.” As you make progress, you rack-up small wins. These small wins make us feel great about ourselves, which stimulates the release of dopamine. When we are making progress in any area of our life, it gives us a sense of accomplishment. It gives us a sense of worth.

Hopefully, we can all agree that we have the power to change how we feel about our work by changing our attitude toward it. Here are some simple strategies to take more pleasure in what you do:

1)    Create a list, in your journal, of the reasons you LOVE doing something that the average person would find unpleasant. For example, I have formed the habit of starting each day with 30-minutes of technical reading, by creating a list of reasons. I love starting each day with technical reading because:

  1. It will make me an expert in my field
  2. It will make me more valuable to my company and to myself
  3. It will help me get promoted
  4. It will help me earn more money
  5. It will prepare me for future opportunities

2)    Create a system for tracking small wins. Small wins help us to sustain motivation. Creating a daily to-do list and crossing off items as they are accomplished makes us feel great about ourselves. If you really want to do well at work, make sure you start each day with your most important task. The more impactful the task, the more it will contribute to your success. Don’t mistake being busy with being productive.

3)    Track your consistency. We are naturally more consistent when we track our consistency. If your goal is to make 10 cold calls a day. You could use a habit-forming app like Strides, Streaks, Fabulous, and Toodledo to track your consistency. Each time you record another successful day with the app, congratulate yourself. Celebrate this small victory. Say, “I am proud of myself today, good job!” Every small win activates our dopamine system and motivates us to go after our goals with greater vigor.

4)    When you feel your enthusiasm starting to wane, listen to something inspiring. Cynical people deride motivation because it doesn’t last. Tell me what lasts? Bathing doesn’t last, so should we stop doing it? Brushing our teeth doesn’t last, so maybe we should quit doing it? Coaches give their teams motivational speeches on a regular basis. Why do you think that is? Because it is effective. Motivation is the desire to do. When our desire to do is waining, we need to take action. You can find a ton of great motivational videos on YouTube. These videos are FREE. It doesn’t get much easier than FREE. Download your favorite to your smartphone and reach for it every time your motivation begins to wane.

5)    Force yourself to smile while you’re performing the task. Forcing yourself to smile, will improve your mood. Physiology has been shown to influence our psychology. Some have suggested that the paradigm we have been taught all our lives, that we smile when we are happy is backward. I don’t believe it is backward. I believe that it works both ways. I believe that our psychology and physiology are linked together in a push-pull relationship, with each affecting the other.

In the military, I was taught that false motivation was better than no motivation. I thought it was just a means of getting us to push ourselves harder during tough training, which it did, but I also discovered that it changed my attitude. Pretend motivation, leads to genuine motivation. Our mind seeks alignment between our thoughts, attitudes, and behaviors. The psychological term that describes a disharmony between attitude and behavior is called cognitive dissonance. When there is a lack of harmony between our attitudes and behaviors we seek to reduce that cognitive dissonance. When you force a smile, it signals to the mind that you are happy. Your body reduces levels of stress hormones like adrenaline and cortisol and increases levels of endorphins and dopamine.[i]

We should enjoy our work. As Steve Jobs said, it is going to fill a large part of our lives. We shouldn’t wait to enjoy our lives. We should enjoy each day, our workdays as well as our weekends. If we can’t find daily pleasure in our life, what is the point? If we achieve great results but don’t find any fulfillment in their accomplishment, are we truly successful?

I hope that you will take what you have learned this week and apply it. We are all responsible for our own happiness. Happiness is a choice we all make, and it begins with what we focus on each day. I hope you will choose to focus on what brings you pleasure.

Until next week, good luck, best wishes and best health!

Attitude is a habitual way of thinking. Change your habits, change your life! 

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[i] JULIETTE SIEGFRIED, Want to Be Happier? Smile More!,

THE HABIT: Week-1 (Gratitude)

What is THE HABIT? THE HABIT focuses on how you start each day; your morning routine; because how you start each day determines how you live each day. Each day is your life in microcosm. As you take control of your mornings, you’ll begin to take control of your life. No longer will you be swept-up in the current; current events, current challenges, and current obligations. You’ll become proactive instead of reactive.

How you start each day determines how you live each day!

With 2017 drawing to an end, it is a time of reflection for many people. As a result, many people will start creating New Year’s Resolutions. Many of these resolutions will involve losing weight. Unfortunately, the success rate for New Year’s Resolutions is an abysmal 8% with 80% of people quitting by February. The people that succeed have two things in common. First they make a strong commitment to achieving their goal, because they know if their reasons aren’t strong enough their excuses will be. Second, they start small. There is a lot of power in small consistent efforts.
Habits and daily rituals are the foundations on which our lives are built. We are creatures of habit. Everyone has a set of daily rituals. If you are honest with yourself, you’ll probably agree that today, is much like yesterday, and tomorrow will be a lot like today. The places you go, the people you talk to, the things you eat, the thoughts you think, the actions you take, etc.
We form habits and routines because they feel good. We form habits because they eliminate the need to constantly make conscious decisions throughout the day. When we perform activities out of habit, the actions take place at the subconscious level, with our brains essentially on autopilot. Habits conserve our limited cognitive energy. Our habits make us who we are because we become what we repeatedly do. If you study your field every day, you’ll become an expert in your field. If you exercise every day, eventually you will become a fit person.

“Men’s natures are alike, it is their habits that carry them far apart.” – Confucius

I suggest that this year, instead of waiting for January 1st to arrive, you begin adopting a few small habits so that when the ball drops you’ll already have built some momentum. I will present a series of small habits you can adopt each week to change your life. I will begin with the smallest of daily rituals and slowly build-up to habits that will require a little more effort to adopt.
We are going to start small, but before long you are going to start noticing drastic improvements in your life. Within a week, you’ll notice an improvement in your mood. In a month, you’ll start noticing improvements in your energy and focus. After three months, you’ll begin to notice improvements in your appearance and self-confidence, and by the end of the year, you’ll have become a person that can achieve whatever it is you set your mind to do. I know this seems like a tall order, but if you understand the compounding effect of daily rituals, you’d realize what I am promising is completely realistic.

One droplet will do nothing to a stone, but as Ovid observed, “Dripping water hollows out stone, not through force but through persistence.”

The problem with most people is that they try something for a little while, then give-up, when they don’t see immediate results. Persistence is the key. Our results come from our repeated efforts.

“Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan Press On! has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race.”- Calvin Coolidge.

The Week-1 challenge is to write down 15 things you are grateful for in your life and then read it each morning; bonus points if you read it again before going to bed each night. If you are like me, the first time I was asked to do this I thought that I would have a hard time writing down 15 items, but when I began to think about everything in my life like my spouse, my children, my friends, our pets, our home, our car, my health, my job, the education I received, and all the opportunities available to me, I quickly wrote 20 things. It is easy to focus on problems and forget everything that is good in our life. I suggest you find or purchase a note pad and a pen to record these items. Layout the pad and pen the night before, and write down everything you can think of, at least 15-items, the next morning. That’s it.

After you create your list, it will only take you a couple of minutes each morning to re-read your list. This one small habit can drastically improve your mood. When you begin each day with a spirit of gratitude it will influence the rest of your day. Anger, frustration, and resentment are not compatible with gratitude. Those emotions cannot exist when you are grateful. When you begin to feel these negative emotions, remind yourself of what you are grateful for. After doing this for a week, you’ll begin to see an improvement in your mood. It is so easy to do, but what is easy to do, is also easy not to do. Make the small commitment to do this every day. Not Monday through Friday, not every once in a while. Every single day, so it will become automatic.

Till next week, good luck!

Change your habits, change your life!

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The Fat Loss Habit: Creating Routines that Make Willpower and Fat Loss Automatic takes a new approach to getting leaner, fitter, and stronger. The program uses high-impact change strategies that make the process of adopting a healthy lifestyle easier. The nutrition and workout program, like the change techniques have all been proven effective, and are all backed by research and scientific studies.

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