The Habit: Week-15 (Actively Seek Associations that Will Inspire You)

“It’s better to hang out with people better than you. Pick out associates whose behavior is better than yours, and you’ll drift in that direction.” Warren Buffett

This week’s challenge is to seek out people that will inspire and influence you in a positive manner. Whatever your goal is, seek out individuals that have achieved it, or are at least further along than you. Seek out associations with groups and individuals you respect and admire.

Warren Buffett says, “The best thing I did was to choose the right heroes.” Bill Graham, was Warren’s hero when he began his career in investment. Bill told Warren when he was a young man he looked around at the people he admired. After studying their character and habits, he concluded that they weren’t doing anything he could not do. He decided that he would mirror the behavior of those successful people he admired until he became someone he could admire. Success leaves clues. Success is a science; if you do what other successful people do, you will be successful.

Many people underestimate the important role of environmental norms and expectations play in our behavior. We all have friends that either bring out the best in us or the worst in us. None of us are immune to the effect. It is often said we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with. Continue reading “The Habit: Week-15 (Actively Seek Associations that Will Inspire You)”


The Habit: Week-12 (Overcome Our Natural Tendency to be Negative)

“Negative is normal. It is not successful, but it’s normal.” Jim Rohn

When the negative thoughts come – and they will; they come to all of us – it’s not enough to just not dwell on it. You’ve got to replace it with a positive thought.” Joel Osteen

Negative is normal. Neglect is natural. They aren’t helpful, but they are natural. People don’t rubberneck when they see a beautiful sunrise; they rubberneck to see a horrific accident. Weeds don’t require nurturing; they only need neglect to grow.

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We all need motivation and discipline in our lives because we are creatures of both emotion and logic. The more disciplined we behave, the more rationally we behave. If we were all completely logic driven creatures, everyone would be disciplined in all areas of life. We know that isn’t the case. Even the most successful people have areas of their life where they lack discipline. They are successful in the areas where they cultivated discipline, and failures in the areas they became slaves to their emotions.

We are both logical and emotional, but our actions are fueled more by our emotions. That is why we need to keep our emotional tanks full of daily doses of motivation. If our emotional tank is empty, it doesn’t matter how logical our goal is. If you have big dreams, but you aren’t obsessed with their achievement. If your necessity level isn’t sufficient, you’ll fail to do what is required. Continue reading “WHY WE CANNOT RELY ON DISCIPLINE OR MOTIVATION ALONE”

Attitude & The story of Three Bricklayers

Our attitude affects everything. It effects when we get up each morning, our work ethic, our dedication, our energy levels, our smile, our handshake, and our results. It is easy to say have a good attitude, but how do you improve your attitude both for yourself and the people you lead.

The first step to improving your attitude is to become more grateful for what you already have. See my blog post. THE HABIT: Week-1 (Gratitude). Continue reading “Attitude & The story of Three Bricklayers”

THE HABIT: Week-1 (Gratitude)

What is THE HABIT? THE HABIT focuses on how you start each day; your morning routine; because how you start each day determines how you live each day. Each day is your life in microcosm. As you take control of your mornings, you’ll begin to take control of your life. No longer will you be swept-up in the current; current events, current challenges, and current obligations. You’ll become proactive instead of reactive.

How you start each day determines how you live each day!

With 2017 drawing to an end, it is a time of reflection for many people. As a result, many people will start creating New Year’s Resolutions. Many of these resolutions will involve losing weight. Unfortunately, the success rate for New Year’s Resolutions is an abysmal 8% with 80% of people quitting by February. The people that succeed have two things in common. First they make a strong commitment to achieving their goal, because they know if their reasons aren’t strong enough their excuses will be. Second, they start small. There is a lot of power in small consistent efforts.
Habits and daily rituals are the foundations on which our lives are built. We are creatures of habit. Everyone has a set of daily rituals. If you are honest with yourself, you’ll probably agree that today, is much like yesterday, and tomorrow will be a lot like today. The places you go, the people you talk to, the things you eat, the thoughts you think, the actions you take, etc. Continue reading “THE HABIT: Week-1 (Gratitude)”